One thing I've found to make a huge difference in the first messages you write when online dating, and your responses from them, is being in a good mood when you go online.
I learned long ago that women pick up on all kinds of subtle things about your mood and emotions when meeting in person, but I never really thought it was a factor online. I've learned through experience that it's true even online. It's that whole sixth sense thing you know, women's intuition maybe.
Besides that fact, we can all probably agree that you would tend to come up with better messages being in a good mood, versus when you're not. Just like you'd probably have a better conversation with women in person while in a better mood.
Feeling positive and upbeat does all kinds of good things for me when I'm attempting to blast some messages out to women on my favorite dating site.
For one thing I come up with better messages to send to women at a much faster rate. It just comes to me a lot of times. For another, I find it easier to let some of the potentially frustrating things roll off my back; like women who list 8000 pet peeves in their profile, or tell me they like going to the movies AND blockbuster nights in their profile. Yeah, like I've never heard that one before!
Now, don't get me wrong here, even though your messages will be much better due to your mood, that doesn't mean you will always get a response back. Remember, there are also many things out of your control in the online dating world that could prevent a response.
Some of those things may be that a woman has started dating someone else, or may be so disgusted with the messages she is getting that she's stopped logging in.
However, I will say that if being in a better mood causes you to stay focused and write much better messages, you could be getting four or five responses for every ten messages you send. At those times where your mood isn't so great and you're struggling with words to write, you would probably be lucky to get just one response back.
So there you go...all you have to do is always be in a good mood and you're set. Ok, ok, I know that's not realistic. If it was and I had the magic pill, I'd be chilling with Jay Z and Beyonce right now in the South of France. I'm kidding, of course.
Very few of us are in a good mood all the time, and the few that are can probably be found off meditating in a cave somewhere in India. So it's ok if you're not always Mr. Upbeat.
I think it's a great strategy though to send the majority of your emails to women on dating sites when you are in these positive moods. If you do I'm confident you'll spend more of your time responding to a first reply from a woman than you were before...
....and that should help you to extend that good mood for a while.
I learned long ago that women pick up on all kinds of subtle things about your mood and emotions when meeting in person, but I never really thought it was a factor online. I've learned through experience that it's true even online. It's that whole sixth sense thing you know, women's intuition maybe.
Besides that fact, we can all probably agree that you would tend to come up with better messages being in a good mood, versus when you're not. Just like you'd probably have a better conversation with women in person while in a better mood.
Feeling positive and upbeat does all kinds of good things for me when I'm attempting to blast some messages out to women on my favorite dating site.
For one thing I come up with better messages to send to women at a much faster rate. It just comes to me a lot of times. For another, I find it easier to let some of the potentially frustrating things roll off my back; like women who list 8000 pet peeves in their profile, or tell me they like going to the movies AND blockbuster nights in their profile. Yeah, like I've never heard that one before!
Now, don't get me wrong here, even though your messages will be much better due to your mood, that doesn't mean you will always get a response back. Remember, there are also many things out of your control in the online dating world that could prevent a response.
Some of those things may be that a woman has started dating someone else, or may be so disgusted with the messages she is getting that she's stopped logging in.
However, I will say that if being in a better mood causes you to stay focused and write much better messages, you could be getting four or five responses for every ten messages you send. At those times where your mood isn't so great and you're struggling with words to write, you would probably be lucky to get just one response back.
So there you go...all you have to do is always be in a good mood and you're set. Ok, ok, I know that's not realistic. If it was and I had the magic pill, I'd be chilling with Jay Z and Beyonce right now in the South of France. I'm kidding, of course.
Very few of us are in a good mood all the time, and the few that are can probably be found off meditating in a cave somewhere in India. So it's ok if you're not always Mr. Upbeat.
I think it's a great strategy though to send the majority of your emails to women on dating sites when you are in these positive moods. If you do I'm confident you'll spend more of your time responding to a first reply from a woman than you were before...
....and that should help you to extend that good mood for a while.
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